Sunday, September 17, 2006

Saturday Night's All Right (For Fighting)

Saturday morning, H and I participated in our walk to raise awareness of ovarian cancer and to raise money for research. It was amazing to see so many people there, and all the t-shirts and signs with the pictures and names of lost loved ones were really touching. There were also so many survivors there and women currently battling ovarian cancer. I may or may not have cried a little bit. And I may or may not have seen a woman light up her cigarette while standing next to a woman who was obviously currently undergoing chemo, who gave the smoker a dirty look before moving a good distance away from her.* The survival rate five years after diagnosis for women with ovarian cancer is only 53 percent. One of the key problems is that ovarian cancer often goes diagnosed until it is already in the late stages. Symptoms of ovarian cancer and more information can be found here.

*It's ok if you smoke, but in front of everyone else at an anti-cancer walk is probably not the best place for it.

Saturday afternoon, H and I attended a wedding. To be honest, I was hoping that the bride would have a super bridezilla freakout in front of everyone. The bride has been kind of rude when I have met her before and was rude at my wedding to H.

H and I actually had a nice time. We sat at a table with an aunt and uncle of H's that neither of us knew very well, and they are really fun people. One of their daughters is ranked in the top five in the United States in a certain sport and is hoping to go to the Olympics in 2012. The aunt and uncle also have a lake house that they offered us free use of whenever they aren't there. So despite no public bridezilla freakouts, the wedding was a definite success!

The one embarassing moment: I figured that since the whole point of the wedding was for the bride to show off how much better and richer she is than everyone else (her words, not mine) that there would be an open bar. So H and I went to the bar, and I ordered a glass of pinot grigio. The bartended uncorked a bottle and as he was about to start pouring said, "That will be six dollars." H and I had exactly one dollar in cash. So in slow motion, I said, "Noooooooooooooooo" as the first drop of wine was about to pour into the glass. Just in time, the bartender turned the bottle upright, and I ordered a water instead.


Marmite Breath said...

Ooooh, I was hoping for Bridezilla stories, but a free place to stay on the Lake is awesome!

And God, don't you hate not having any cash? It should have been open bar, dammit!

digital janitor said...

A six dollar glass of wine AT A WEDDING? I have been to some cheap weddings in my life, but *never* have I been to a wedding where there wasn't at least free tap beer and Two Buck Chuck.

If Bridezilla wanted to show off, she sure did a crappy job of it. I know people who would take their gift back if you didn't have an open bar at the reception.

3carnations said...

We did not have open bar. The only alcohol we did was champagne for a toast. Our wedding was fairly small (about 45 people), was in the morning, and the reception was for lunch.

I'm taking a little exception to digital janitor's comment about the gift...I don't give a wedding gift based on how good I expect the reception to be, nor do I expect to drink back the money I spent on a gift. Ouch.

She actually said she wanted to show how much richer and better she is than people? Geez...

PreppyGirl said...

No open bar? Yikes. The words "CASH BAR" somewhere on the invite would have been helpful.

I hope you didn't give a great gift. Not because of the cash bar but because she was rude to H (at his own wedding? - what is UP with that?)

BTW, have you seen Wedding Crashers? We saw it last night - many laughs ensued.

Stinkypaw said...

Ouch! That a pretty steep price for a glass of wine at a wedding reception. That's probably why she's richers than everybody else, she's cheap! That's too bad, but at least you got a nice offer from the relatives. Cool!

Just check the link about the ovarian cancer symptoms, and I must say, I'm a little scared now... with my upcoming surgery I'm sure they'll see if something isn't "healthy"...

schneids said...

lighting a cigarette at a cancer walk? Wow...that is odd.

Glad that you had fun at the wedding...yea for a lake place! Cash this bridezilla's wedding? Weird...

stefanie said...

I agree a wedding with no free wine and beer is just wrong. But I've never had to pay for a wedding, so I might, of course, change my story when or if I do. ;-) At the very least, it should have in some way been indicated that it was a cash bar, so people knew what to expect. (So, in response to your embarrassment, I say, "It's not you; it's them.")

And lighting up at a cancer walk?? I agree: POOR taste.

JayAre said...

Did she seriously say that the point of her wedding was to show off being better and richer than other people? That is so tacky! And so shouldn't EVER be the point of ANY wedding! Helps to explain why our divorce rate is so high now. ;-)

Sparkling Cipher said...

Ew, very tacky. Smoking cigarette in front of cancer patients/survivors/families = not cool. Being anything but sweet to the bride or groom on her or his wedding day, actually saying that you're using your own wedding to show off to others, then charging your guests $6 (SIX DOLLARS?!) for a glass of wine... She didn't need a Bridezilla freak-out to look bad.

Christine said...

Silly Bridezilla. It's hard to show off when your guests are being charged for their drinks.

-R- said...

Marmite, we never have cash on us! It is such a pain.

DJ, I thought $6 was a bit much too.

3carnations, I don't always expect open bars, but I do expect some free wine if you are having a super extravagant wedding. And it also makes a big difference whether it is a morning or afternoon wedding or an evening wedding.

Prep, we gave her a gift equivalent to the one she gave us, so we should be fine. We saw Wedding Crashers and didn't really like it. I think we are the only ones!

Spaw, I'm sure they will check during the surgery, and I'm sure you're fine. But it is good for everyone to be aware what the symptoms are.

Schneids, the smoker was definitely someone I would describe as Klassy.

Stefanie, if you are going to spend $20,000+ on a wedding (and I don't think everyone should), don't skimp on the booze!

Jayare, I am definitely glad she is H's relative. Not that we don't have our share of weirdos on my side of the family.

Sparkling, I agree wholeheartedly.

Christine, my point exactly!